I was 14, during school vacations I visited my aunt (my mothers younger sister), who stayed in Pune. We both were watching a romantic Bollywood movie 'Hum Aapke Hain Kaun'. I was totally lost enjoying the romance between Salman Khan and Madhuri Dixit. I was immersed in watching the actor's display of his unconditional love. The way he wooed his lady was so alluring.
Reading my mind, my aunt paused the movie and said "Movies are meant for entertainment, don't take these love stories too seriously. Real life is totally different from REEL life. In Reality life is not always rosy, Lovers are not always in Love. There will be a stage where you feel you are in love, but you need to be wise enough to analyze the situation logically and decide whats best for you."
"You won't understand completely what I just said, but always remember it", saying this she resumed the movie.
That night I lay in my bed thinking if love is real, after hearing the harsh reality of love I decided to always listen to my mind over heart, I promised myself to always think before I act but a small part of me secretly prayed to find my Prince Charming some day.
Would my love story end with a ' ..they lived happily ever after', Another Fairytale or will it be a Nightmare, that only time could tell.
I wish your life gets touched by one of those happily ever afters....with time things will be fine:)
ReplyDeleteBest wishes ....Ananya :)
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Deletewho knows, maybe your secret desire may come true. But yes, prince charming are rare to find now a days and choosing your brain to speak first will always save and protect your heart ...you know what I mean :)
ReplyDeleteYes I definitely do :)
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Wow, a fresh start to the challenge!!! Wishing you to have only happiness always ;)
ReplyDeleteHope yours is a fairy tale Ananya :)
ReplyDeleteDream about the Prince Charming..No Harm in dreaming! And there are many happily ever after true stories out there too..But yes you should always use the right combination of heart and brains :) Lovely write up!
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Ooooo, my first A to read! And a good one... I think your aunt gave good advice, but it would have been fun to have another aunt who said to follow your heart... then you would have both voices is your head to balance each other.
ReplyDeleteThank you ! Thankfully I have one aunt, who has put many many voices in my head. Gosh can only imagine what would happen if i had two such aunts :)
DeleteSo, are we going to hear the fairy tale?
ReplyDeleteMay be....
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as many lectures as elders might give about this topic, but the heart never listens! it always waits for some magic to happen :D
ReplyDeleteYes but some advices we do take right??
DeleteI couldn't agree more with your Aunt. I have a happily ever after too. I met my husband on a trek twelve years ago, and we have been together since then. The initial phase was very exciting. But soon, it gave way to a new phase. The show-less-feel-deeper phase. I now love my husband more than I did twelve years ago, I am more attached to him and vice versa. But we have surpassed that rosy romantic peaches and cream kinda love. Our love is shared mutually between us and our kids. It is definitely not the Hindi Movies kinda romance, but a better one :) I hope you find your happily-ever-after too! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story. Yes Love grows with time and so do we :)
DeleteI wish you and your love a long happy married life :)
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ReplyDeleteYes, that's great advice from your aunt.
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The voice of a fairytale teller and that of rationality - now which one will win? Looking forward to see how the story unfolds! A good start, Ananya :)
ReplyDeleteThank you ! Love the way you described my inner thoughts.
DeleteYour aunt's advice is a good one and the one from the head!! But then heart does not follow any rules, it finds it own path! And may your story has ... they lived happily ever after! Cheers :)
ReplyDeleteHopefully your life won't turn out like the soap opera that's HAHK :) Here's to strokes of your life as you make it!
ReplyDeleteGood luck with that Ananya. But personally I feel in the matters of the heart, if the heart rules the mind it usually turns just fine. Anyway, hope you find your Prince Charming son :)
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DeleteI loved HAHK too but I would only half-agree with your aunt's opinion. While it is true that reel life is nothing like real life where there are many people who would take a girl on a ride in the name of love. But I feel true love exists. Why else some people would be married for 60-70 years and still cannot live a moment without each other :)
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I wish you a Fairy tale life, Ananya ;) I'm sure whatever you're gifted with, you can turn it into a fairy tale ;) that's the best gift you can give urself :)
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I met online, so we fell in love with who we thought the other one was. We were neither totally the same or totally different than we seemed, though. And we met 21 years ago, have been together 19 years and married for 17 with 3 children.
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Thank you for sharing your happily ever after with us :)
DeleteYour Aunty discussed such things with you? Lucky you:) You mustve been her laadli
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DeleteCute start... For me heart rules always! :)
ReplyDeleteAha! I am smiling after reading it! While many of my friends and aunts still say I am living in a fairy tale world of romance and love, I dont wish to give up on that! I believe in such stories and I dont mind an optimistic approach! And no fairy tale is complete without struggles and daily life problems, but they end on a happy note! So they seem real to me :)
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So true Shesha. Thank you for sharing your fairytale views :)
DeleteAwww am sure it will come true :)
ReplyDeleteLife is a fairy tale if we make it one. Always have hope. Cheers for a happy ending!
ReplyDeleteA very wise Aunt to give you those words of wisdom! :)
ReplyDeleteYes, I am grateful !
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Real life is different from reel life...great advice! :)
ReplyDeleteYour aunt's advice is right...but the heart never listens , does it? It wants what it wants! :)
ReplyDeletehmmm... Dil tho Pagal hai... Dewanna hai !
DeleteI was a romantic when I was younger. I loved romantic movies and dreamed I was the heroine. Of course life is a mix of both, a little bit of fairy tale, a little bit of reality....but probably more of the latter! still I think it's wonderful to hope and dream.
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Yes thats true, Life's a mix. Thank you !
Deletewow.. wish the post was a little longer.. I was really loving it and was expecting more... :) Great one
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Thank you ! Amrit in reality, it was a long advice she gave me. I cut it, to keep the post short.
Deleteheart wants what it wants .. but definitely a advice every parents give .. every relation goes the way the two people involved in it takes it :)
ReplyDeleteYup thats right Ankur.
Deletegood things come to those who believe in it. Continue believing in your dream, it will come true.
ReplyDeleteYes. Thank you !
DeleteSo true but I I realised it only after I was done with all the falling in love and everything :). Looking fwd to the rest of your posts.
ReplyDeleteYes Sunila, Sometimes we fall in love with a person expecting him to be someone he is not.
DeleteSounds like you have a wise aunt, but don't give up on love.
ReplyDeleteI went from heart to mind to heart, Ananya. Wondering how your tale has proceeded. :)
ReplyDeleteWell you know it proceeded, as any other ordinary life story, with extraordinary events.
DeleteThis is wonderful! Yes, you must listen to your brain - there are many charmers that will take what they can and go, but that being said, true love does exist. I see it every day when I look at my husband. Sometimes it can be covered with anger and sadness when we get into a disagreement, but when it comes down to it, the love that we share (going on 11 years married, 18 years since we started dating) grows deeper every day. We rarely let a day go past that we do not say we love each other or share a glance that says more than words. It is wonderful and all logic says that this could not have happened when we were 17, but so far, logic was wrong. My advice is become best friends before you get married, because the friendship holds you through the tough times!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing your fairytale with us. Expressing love each day is so important.
DeleteI value your advice, its true.
Lovely write, Ananya.. I hope you have a happily ever after.. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you !
Delete"Happily Ever After" is a bit idealistic, but you can certainly be fortunate enough to meet the one person who is right for you and spend your lives together. I did! :) We've had some bad times along with the good, but that's just part of life. As someone else said, if you become best friends first, that helps a lot.
ReplyDeleteYes Debbie. Sometimes I feel whole fairytale concept is overrated.
DeleteI appreciate your honesty in saying that we have bad times, yes we all do!
aw happily ever after, great advice from the aunt thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading :)
DeleteIn life, anything is possible. There are times when you will find your Prince Charming. There are times when he will sweep you off your feet. There are times when you wonder why you found him charming. My two cents: Take Life as it comes and enjoy the whole ride :)
ReplyDeleteThank you ! Love your line WHY WHY I found this guy charming :)
DeleteNice how you always end your posts with open questions. Moral of the story is - aunties are wrong companies to watch romantic movies with.
ReplyDeletehee hee Yes I agree :) Takes out all the fun na :)
DeleteI hope your wishes come true, its nice to connect with AtoZ
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Deleteha ha ha like The Fool said yes watch it in the right company ;)
ReplyDeleteReal life may not always be reel life but its worth it :)
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Delete:-) Ananya, I wish you get the outcome you want! All good things to you!
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ReplyDeleteLily on a lighter note if Devdas would be the movie, guess the emphasis would be on ' Drinking Alcohol, Bad habits, addiction' etc not love. ;)
DeleteEveryone dreams of a fairytale life... and I wish you the same too :)
ReplyDeleteWisely said, both to your aunt and you.
ReplyDeleteThank you !
DeleteIt is in fact true that Real Life is entirely different than the Reel Life, especially when Love is concerned.
ReplyDeleteI wish you find your prince charming :)
ReplyDeleteu should learn photo editing .. ur face should be there instead of madhuri.. then the article will luk for interesting .. just joking ...
ReplyDeleteLife is just a fairytale ... and we are just actors ...
Thanks for the idea .. Will surely give it a try :)
DeleteNicely put! That's my secret wish too! Waiting for my Prince Charming.. <3
ReplyDeleteAhem Ahem... :D :D :D You had one to say :P I have many unsaid :D
ReplyDeleteThank-you for sharing these wise words. Prince Charmings are real. Mine wooed me 20 years ago, and he is just as charming today. (But don't forget to use your head!)
ReplyDeleteA fairy tale happy ending, surely a dream for all :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks all for stopping by and sharing your precious views :)
ReplyDeleteWell sweety, or Ananya... this is certainly a very difficult topic... but falling in love is different than being in love and it could be a phase that may go or get permanent... however we are complicating things completely... love is life... you may love the movement, a person or thing and experience happiness that is bounds and thats when you become cheerful...when it comes to life partner... it is affection and friendship and a bond...wooing of a girl just like in films is well time pass(: but enjoying spending time with her, encouraging her and trusting each other what counts for a complete love relationship that will be forever charged come what times may...there is no prince charming... but yes when you find someone your sure, do trust your heart too...only don't cross boundaries and be sensible and intact...your heart is wiser than the head and is purer...also think one should keep that as part of our lives, not our whole life, and must stay disconnected...if its true we would stay reconnected. Wish you good luck... I am sure I am not talking sense but that is my view... I had almost fallen in love(: last year and the reason i did was only because I was sure that person liked me genuienly not for my looks, money but me(: and even though he had to go because of some reasons I changed completely... so I think love is deep and real and if it is true really it will grow you up(: one has to experience it...sometimes I fall in love with the movement and not anyone and get selfish... and I don't know weather it is right or wrong... but it depends on experience, do fall in love with life and think someone if walks along with you without making you love love of love, he or she is perfect for you...and there might be someone who makes you love life and yourself more... but it is best be disconnected not emotional, rational and trust your heart too... it is only your subsconsiense which has thought things over without your knowledge... I think it would work in general...anyway blabering...
ReplyDeleteoh I meant making you love life more... or without making you lose love for life...that person...
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